What I’m Doing In 2019 To Make Me Feel Better…

What I’m Doing In 2019 To Make Me Feel Better…

Towards the end of end of last year I felt a change in the way that I was thinking and looking at life. I’m fed up of constantly feeling stressed about life, that I’m not good enough and it really affecting my mood.

Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been thinking about what I can do to make myself feel better. To shrug of these feeling and to feel happier in myself and I thought I would share them with you.

Reading

This is actually something that I started doing at the beginning of 2018 and it made such a difference, that I’m obviously going to continue and I thought I would share it with you. I’ve always loved to read and since having children, I just hadn’t read books like I used to do. I have always read a book before bed, to help me relax and switch off. But because I was so tired by this stage, I would only read a few paragraphs and I would be asleep. It meant a book would take forever to read and I never really got into it, if you know what I mean.

Last year I started to go to be earlier a few times a week and sit and read my book. I love it and it makes me feel a lot more relaxed now. Plus I’m getting to read a lot more brilliant books. This year because I now have both the girls at school, some days I am taking myself upstairs away from the distractions about an hour before school pick up and reading my book. This has been amazing for me. To have this time to clear my head before I get the girls, I definitely notice a difference to my attitude when I do this and when I don’t.

Exercise 

I wrote a post last week about wanting to start doing some exercise and whether to join a gym or do something at home. At the moment I’m still not sure what I’m going to do and I need to find a way that works for me and our family. Andy has been running for just over a year now and he goes a few times a week with a friend, he loves it. He has said he will take me out for a run, but I hate the thought of anyone seeing me all red and sweaty!

But, whatever I decide to do. I need to do something and stop delaying it.

Friends

Over the last few years, as a result of my post natal depression and anxiety, I’ve not been the friend that I once was. I’ve hidden myself away and not seen people as much as I would’ve liked to. I also realised through this, that I was the friend that initiated a lot of the contact and arranging to meet up and because I stopped doing it, it meant that friends didn’t get in contact with me.

This year I’m determined to be a better friend, to push myself to send that text message, to arrange to go out more and to try and be the friend I once was. Sadly, some friends didn’t stick with me over the last few years, but I’m going to treasure the ones that did a little bit more and the new friends too.

Lower My Standards

I need to lower my own standards, standards that are set by me. But that are sending me into some kind of crazy person. When it comes to the housework, my work, how I parent, relationships, basically everything. I put this pressure on myself to project this perfect life and I’m exhausting myself.

I need to worry about the housework less, just chill a bit more when it comes to the girls and spend less time looking at social media and seeing everyone else perfect homes. I’m going to take the pressure off doing it all.

That is it. Nothing particularly groundbreaking, but some pretty big things for me personally. Now to put it all into action!

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11 Comments

  1. 23/01/2019 / 09:11

    They’re amazing ways to make you feel better! I really want to read more too and have already finished Lily Allen’s autobiography (well worth a read!) 🙂

  2. 23/01/2019 / 09:24

    I can definitely relate to how you’ve been feeling, I feel the same at times and just want to hide at home and hibernate until it passes, but it makes me feel worse. Getting out in the fresh air for walks is my ‘go to’ method for lifting my mood.

    Stevie x

  3. 23/01/2019 / 14:17

    Sometimes a change can do us good. I was told by a friend to lower my standards but preferred to take on less instead.

  4. 23/01/2019 / 14:31

    Some great ideas and I totally agree with you about reading, it always makes me feel loads better too.
    Nat.x

  5. 24/01/2019 / 23:23

    I could totally relate to everything you talked about in this post, Laura. I’m the worst when it comes to raising the bar too high. And then I berate myself when I don’t achieve everything I think I needed to. It’s crazy. This year I really need to stop giving myself a hard time and just accept that, most of the time, what I’m doing is more than enough 🙂

    Louise x

  6. 25/01/2019 / 09:01

    Oh bless you. These are great ways to make you feel better I think. I’m flabbergasted that some of your friends didn’t stick by you through your troubles. At least I hope you kept hold of the good ones! And as for the social media peer pressure, the window looking into people’s ‘perfect’ lives, I think this is pretty much what, in the end got the better of me, and my own sanity and emotional well-being, which made me soo blogging. I’m only just starting to broach the whole thing again now. Haha! If you ever need to chat, im just down the road xx

    • 25/01/2019 / 12:01

      Social media is tough isn’t it? Plus we can never seem to get away from it! Thank you, that’s very kind of you. I forget you’re just down the road xx

  7. 25/01/2019 / 17:21

    I love this and I am with you all the way. Reading is a big thing for me, without it I feel really stressed out. I am making way more time for myself this year – and for my friends. xxx

  8. 25/01/2019 / 21:32

    I can really relate to this post so thanks for sharing! I always seem to feel stressed about something and its often because of the expectations I put on myself. I am determined to make time for me this year whether that be a hot bath and an early night or making time to see friends. I hope you have a great year and start feeling much less stressed. xx

  9. 25/01/2019 / 22:28

    I am a book lover and I plan to read a book a week this year. I am on target so far. Good you are making time to read.

  10. 27/01/2019 / 11:14

    Exercise is top of my list as it makes me feel so much better to be outside, even if it is just a walk. Good luck with your goals