Time Together…The Ordinary Moments

September 2015 148

It’s not very often that Andy and I get time to just be us since we’ve had our girls. So, when last night an opportunity came along, we took it.

Since having Alice, we have not had that many nights out together. This mainly down to having someone to look after the girls and also because we are tired most of the time.

A few weeks ago, some friends of ours invited us over for dinner, we see them regularly but we normally have all the children with us. It’s not always easy to have a good conversation and enjoy each others company, with little ones around. We arranged for my parents to babysit the girls, the date was in the diary and we were looking forward to.

Unfortunately their children were sick, so we had to rearrange the evening, something that every parent gets used and no one minds. This meant that we had no plans, but we did have a babysitter…

Friday night we had a bad night with Holly, which luckily for the past six months is rare, but it was a long night of Holly just not settling. Which ended up with her finally waking Alice up and the whole house was awake by 5.30am, we were tired!

If we’re honest with ourselves, all we really wanted to do was go to bed and catch up on some sleep. But, we also knew that having a babysitter doesn’t happen that often and we should really make the most of it.

So, we decided that we would go out for dinner and enjoy a couple of hours together with no distractions.  I managed to get us a table booked and we were going out.

As the afternoon went on, we were really starting to struggle with tiredness. Normally on days like this, we are counting the hours until the girls are in bed and we too can get some sleep. I asked Andy if he still wanted to go out, his eyes gave one answer, but he said ‘yes, lets still go’.

Getting myself ready to go out is not like it used to be, where I could send lots of time deciding what to wear. Not it’s a quick decision, quickly do my make up and hair and hope I look presentable.

When my parents come to over to babysit, we never tell the girls and we get them to sleep before we sneak my parents in. Mainly because they love nan and grandad so much, they wouldn’t want to go to sleep if they knew they were coming over. It makes it easier for us to leave them and enjoy ourselves knowing they are in bed asleep. Not worrying if they are playing nan and grandad up and having to deal with tired and grumpy children the next day.

Everything went to plan, the girls fell asleep quickly, I got ready, my parents arrived and we were in the car on our way out. Yes, we were extremely tired, but we both know how important it is to make time for each other and to just be us.

During the meal, it gave us time to talk, to reconnect. Our days are busy at the moment, with Andy working long hours and it was great to just chat, without the distractions of life or children.

We talked a lot about making plans for our family holiday this year and how our life is going to change in September, when Alice starts school.

Yes, of course we talked about our girls, because they are our world and whilst we are with them all the time. We don’t very often take the time to chat about the changes in them recently and how far our little family has come over the last eighteen months when Holly arrived.

The food was delicious and I didn’t have to share it with anyone.

We didn’t have a late night, we were both exhausted, but to have that time together was worth the couple of hours sleep we missed out on. Because without Andy and I there is no family, there would just be two individual people with children.


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  1. 28/02/2016 / 07:51

    I know the feeling of almost being too tired to make the effort well but like you say sometimes it’s important to make the effort & you end up being really glad you did! i’m glad the missed hours of sleep were worth it!

  2. 28/02/2016 / 08:15

    Yes, I’m really glad we did and it was definitely worth the missed sleep. x

  3. 28/02/2016 / 08:36

    A lovely post and I agree, I have had this on many occasions where I haven’t wanted to go out somewhere but ended up making the effort and having a lovely time. My husband and I don’t get many nights out together, probably one every couple of months, but we are lucky that he works from home and so I see him a lot. Still I really enjoy those one on one times with him- it gives us a chance to reconnect properly and I do love that. x

    • 28/02/2016 / 19:53

      Thank you 🙂 I agree, I think it’s the one on one times that you need, remembering what it was like before you had the little ones. We had a lovely time and it’s always nice to have some yummy food that I didn’t cook x

  4. 28/02/2016 / 10:36

    Oh how lovely, sometimes you’re so tired you just have to force yourselves out but it’s worth it inn the end. We did it the other week and I thought I was going to fall asleep over dinner but I survived and we felt so much closer for it x

    • 28/02/2016 / 19:51

      I’m pleased to hear you survived that may not have been the best quality time, if you had fallen asleep 🙂 x

  5. How lovely. Its so important to have some quality time just the two of you. Although i know what you mean, it has hard to make the effort and often I can’t really be bothered to get ready, but its definitely worth it when you do.

    • 28/02/2016 / 19:50

      It was worth making the effort and the food was yummy too ha ha!!

  6. 02/03/2016 / 16:47

    It’s so lovely when you force yourself to get out there and manage to have some great quality time. It’s always worth it – those kind of moments are so few and far between once children enter the mix!

  7. 03/03/2016 / 19:43

    How lovely, we hardly ever do this and I think we should do it more. A good tip to get the children to sleep before the grandparents arrive. I always fail at this and then Nanny and Grandad make a feeble attempt at trying to put them to bed but they are always still awake when we get home and then it kind of defeats the point of going out because we have grumpy tired children to deal with like you say!

    • 03/03/2016 / 20:21

      Yes, exactly! Get the kids to bed and then you can enjoy yourself and nothing is worth grumpy children! It was lovely and we should do it more often x

  8. 05/03/2016 / 21:42

    Aw how lovely I know exactly what you mean about the preference for sleep and we only have one child! (at the moment anyway second one due May) But it s great that you made the effort and I love the last sentence about that fact that without you and Andy there is no family. So true. Thank you for joining us at #BloggerClubUK hope to see you again next week x

    • 05/03/2016 / 22:14

      Thank you 🙂 Yes, sleep normally wins over most things, but sometimes you have to make the effort! x