I had dreamt of being a mummy long before Alice came along and I thought about life as a mummy a lot. But there are lots of things that never even occurred to me or I had considered…
- That there would be times that I would be poorly and I would still have to look after my children. I would no longer be able to snuggle on the sofa and watch friends, while dozing.
- I would never go to toilet alone anymore and having the door open is now so normal, I have to remember to close it when I am out!
- How much ‘stuff’ these little people need to leave the house, let alone when you go on holiday. I never imagined that I would sacrifice that extra pair of shoes for a pack of nappies!
- That my house would look like I was running a laundry service. The washing is relentless, I mean really how do two little people create so much.
- My life would be governed by the clock…Is it time to feed them? Is it time for a nap? Is it time to collect Alice from preschool? Is it bath time? Is it bedtime?
- When my little ones became older, I would no longer be able to eat what I want to eat, when I want to eat it. Otherwise they want it too or I have to share…
I asked my husband what he didn’t think about before becoming a daddy…
“That when you (that’s me, the wife!) go out for the evening, it’s not easy to invite his friends round. Mainly since we’ve had Holly, the chances are greater that one would wake up!”
“The awkward questions that Alice asks me about the differences between me and her. I feel totally unprepared”
I asked some of my lovely readers what things they didn’t think about, here are a few…
“I never appreciated that I would be on call 24/7”
“How would I manage to have a bath, when my husband was at work” Its fine while they are sleeping, but you just know they will wake up the second you get in”
“That I would never get a full night’s sleep again! My children don’t like sleep”
“The amount of space that toys take up”
“I think the thing I didn’t realise was how hard it is to deal with them being ill or hurting themselves… or generally worrying. I was not prepared for those emotions at all. Just generally loving someone so much that worrying about them becomes so overwhelming! “
Were there things that you hadn’t considered before becoming a parent?