Returning to Work…Looking Back #10

Returning to Work…Looking Back #10

Welcome back to my little mini series where I am looking back over our family memories, if you have missed one you can pop here to catch up.

It’s nearly four years ago that I became a mummy to Alice and started my maternity leave. We had planned for me to take a year off work and then I would return part time…Anyway things didn’t go to plan!

Whilst I was on maternity leave my job role changed and it became a job that I would not be able to manage whilst being a mummy too. I had lots of difficult conversations with my employer at the time and I went through a particularly difficult time, where I dreaded to see an email from them. I spent far too much of my maternity leave worrying and having to talk to them whilst jiggling Alice on my hip. It was just impossible to concentrate on the conversation when your daughter needs you too.

It led to lots of conversations with Andy about what we would do. We got to the stage where we knew that I would leave my job, but would I look for something new or stay at home with Alice? We decided I would stay at home with Alice, a decision that we were both happy with.

Two weeks after Alice turned one, I had a phone call from my friend asking me if I wanted a job. A job working alongside her, part time and it was only a six month contract. It was tempting…

Taking this job would mean that we could use the money to move house, something that we wanted to do, but didn’t think we would at this moment in our lives. It would also mean that if we were blessed with another baby, I would be able to get statutory maternity pay. This was a big decision!

While we were looking at the different options, both our parents said that they would love to look after Alice for us. Covering the three days I would be at work between them, how lucky were we!

This was deciding the factor for us, I would be able to go back to work for three days a week, while Alice was being cared for by her grandparents and I would get to be with her for the other four days of the week…plus I would get to spend the three days with my lovely friend. In the end the decision was very easy on a practical level.

It was just the emotional side I needed to work on, leaving my baby girl. I knew that she would be well loved and looked after, it was just that mummy guilt kicking in.

I was due to start work five days after our holiday, which also happened to be when Andy would be on a stag do. This was not great timing, as I was already panicking about how I would get me and Alice ready in time to leave the house, to drop her off and then travel 45 minutes to work. It just all seemed too much.

My mum came to the rescue again and offered for me to stay overnight with them the night before my first day. Then all I needed to worry about was getting me ready and to get to work. Phew!

My first day was what you would expect, spending every minute checking my phone just in case mum needed me. But I did survive and it was quite nice to enjoy a hot cup of coffee and go to the toilet on my own. I even had a lunch break and no one wanted something off my plate.

We all settled into our new life of me working really well, Alice loved going to her grandparents and when she was with my parents, she also got to play with her cousin as they looked after my niece too. The relationship that Alice has with all her grandparents is one of the best things to come out of me returning to work.

It turned out to be the best decision we made…

Next week I will be back with being pregnant for a second time.



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  1. Sarah Ella (Mumx3x)
    12/05/2016 / 09:47

    Aww bless you! It’s lovely that Alice enjoys being with her Grandparents while you go to work and has a good relationship with them! I use to LOVE going to my grandparents house when I was little 🙂 Your mum is very supportive, bless her too! Lovely post. xx

  2. 12/05/2016 / 11:28

    It does sound like a good decision. Working is hard but glad it went well and your feeling good about it all. I was checking my phone too when i went to work after having Sylvia.

  3. 12/05/2016 / 11:50

    It’s certainly not easy going back to work after having children, but how lucky that you have grandparents to help out. We don’t have that option, which is why I work from home until my husband gets home from work and then I head out for a few hours at my other job.

  4. 12/05/2016 / 13:13

    I’m a part time worker too (for the moment anyway), and I love the balance it gives me – I do two days and Max goes to nursery, which for me is the perfect balance. I suspect that I’ll stop working for a bit if we have another baby though – nursery fees are just so expensive! How lovely that Alice was able to be looked after by her grandparents – lovely for both parties!

  5. 12/05/2016 / 19:21

    How lovely that it all came together – seems the perfect solution: Alice had time with her grandparents, you got work without having to commit to a full-time job so you could move, and you still had the time together. I work for myself so have been doing part-time hours since my daughter was born (with nursery) and I’m so glad I’ve had the time with her at home AND the time to keep my career (and sanity) intact!

  6. 12/05/2016 / 19:45

    It’s great when things work out for the best. Awesome best friend and grandparents for giving you the opportunity. I’ve just left my job to stay at home. It’s exciting but daunting at the same time. #blogclubuk

  7. 12/05/2016 / 21:09

    It is such a difficult decision – I decided with Pickle that I was going to work for myself so I can spend as much time with him as possible – I a very lucky. Kaz x

  8. 12/05/2016 / 21:25

    I think it is a really hard decision! I decided not to go back as I was earning pretty much the same from blogging, so I decided to “go pro” but I do miss it and I do question if that “out of the house time would be better”… H x

  9. 12/05/2016 / 22:40

    I work full time bug I’m self employed so luckily I changed work around my children’s needs. I don’t think I could be a stay at home mum but admire those that are

  10. Eliana
    13/05/2016 / 09:55

    Sometimes everything works for the better, right? So happy for you everything went well at the end. You are very lucky to have Alice looked after by her grandparents. That’s a unique bond they’re building! Our little ones get to kiss the screen of the computer when we Skype! Haha 😉

  11. 13/05/2016 / 16:18

    I wish I could find a job which I loved and fitted in with the kids. Sounds like you have it just right.

  12. 14/05/2016 / 20:26

    What a lovely thing to look back on. It’s such a big decision at the time, deciding what to do about work post-baby isn’t it? I left a well paid job after I had Libby because I went back when she was 3 months old and after 6 weeks I’d left to do something that paid less but that I could do from home. We struggled financially but none of it matters, the time with my children is something I’d never have got back.