This last month has been a real rollercoaster one. We had half term which was really lovely and I loved having my girls home. We had playdates, saw family and just enjoyed being together. Andy was able to be off for one day and we had a lovely day swimming and bowling.
The girls adore being at home together, they get into a pattern with each other and there will be a game that will be constant throughout the week and I love watching them.
I was sad when it was time for them to return to school, it was nice not having the routine and the school run. But then the last two weeks I’m not sure what happened to Alice, but she turned into a little girl I didn’t recognise. Her behaviour was off the scale and every day she was having bad episodes and behaving in a way I hadn’t seen before. It was every day, normally twice a day and I just couldn’t understand what had happened to make her this way. I would try talking to her, but was shouted down.
The weekends were the worst and it got to the stage last Friday where I was actually dreading the weekend, knowing that yet again she was going to ruin it.
Holly on the other hand was an angel and she definitely isn’t silly and when Alice is being particularly bad, she really plays on it and is extra good. It’s funny to watch her and I know exactly what she is doing. But I’m not complaining, as lately I need someone to be good!
Last weekend we were going to have a family day out and due to Alice’s bad behaviour during the week we told her we weren’t going. She didn’t deserve to go and of course she didn’t take the news well. But I believe even more now that she is older, that big days out should only happen if they’ve been good.
On Saturday night snuggled in her bed reading a book together, once we had finished I spoke to her again about her recent behaviour and why she thinks she gets so angry. Her reply was ‘because I like it’, which scared me a little. She asked me why I was asking her and I explained that I don’t like to see her this way and that I wanted to understand why she did it, in the hope that I could help her through it and prevent it. We also talked about missing out on a big day out, and I explained that if there was a next time, either Daddy or Mummy would take Holly so that she didn’t miss out as it wasn’t fair. Alice stayed silent.
I told her I was going to speak to her teacher next week at parents evening and Alice immediately responded ‘ why Mummy, I’m never like this at school’. Which is true, she is an angel at school and whenever she goes on playdates I’m always told what a lovely, polite girl she is. People are always amazed when I say Alice hasn’t been good. They just think she is an angel all the time. And before now, she was most of the time.
We then hugged and kissed and she went to sleep. I told Andy about our talk and that it worries me that she likes being angry and how can we overcome this. We both felt like we didn’t have the answer. We have tired reward charts, and other positive reinforcements, but nothing has worked this time.
When I woke up on Sunday to Alice running in, my recent thoughts are what mood is she going to be in and I was delighted that it was a good mood. The day started well and at some point she randomly said, I’m going to be good today Mummy, and I replied, Brilliant I can’t wait, I miss my kind and gentle Alice and we hugged.
We spent the day with my family celebrating my Dad’s birthday and in the evening Alice and I snugged up and watched Dancing on Ice Final. I had my Alice back and it felt good. At bedtime she said I’ve been good today Mummy and I said, yes you’ve been amazing and how much nicer our day was because of it.
It’s been 4 days now and there has been no bad behaviour, she has been my beautiful kind gentle Alice again and life has been a lot happier in our house. I don’t know why she was like it for two whole weeks, and I probably will never know. I’m just hoping that we never experience again.
Yes, of course she is going to have her moments, they all do. But I just don’t want that constant angry Alice back.
I write these posts about my girls every month, and they are normally full of the lovely moments they’ve shared together. And whilst there have been lovely moments between my girls this month, I felt it was important to also share that this month has been particularly tough with Alice. That life isn’t always easy and lovely, and I will share the tough moments too. I just hope the tough moments aren’y too often!!!
My photos this month are from various different times in the last month. We had a lovely trip to Mottisfont National Trust and a couple of photos are from then. The girls had Uganda Day at school and had to dress up in the flag colours and it was like summer with them out in t-shirts. We had World Book Day and they dressed up.