Calling in sick…Looking back #4

Calling in sick…Looking back #4

If you have missed any of my Looking Back mini series, you can find them all here.

There are many things that I didn’t think about before I became a parent, I wrote about them here , and one of them was how I would manage to look after a baby when I was poorly. I didn’t have to wait to long to find out…

Alice was less than three months old when I first had the wonderful experience of looking after a poorly baby, when I also poorly. We had been given a lovely present from our friends when Alice was born, which was to have a family photoshoot session. Once I came out of the newborn baby bubble, I booked it in and I couldn’t wait for us to have some photo’s taken of Alice and also of the three of us.

I spent ages deciding what outfits to take for Alice to wear, oh my goodness baby clothes are just too cute, plus a few spares in case of accidents. Then the big problem, what do I wear, what fits me? what can I breastfeed in? Will I clash with Alice’s outfits? All these factors I had to consider.

Once the outfits were chosen, I then started to think about the morning, making sure Alice had a nap so she wasn’t grumpy, making sure she had a good feed, so she wasn’t hungry. The list went on…

The morning of the photoshoot arrived and I didn’t feel to great, I could tell I was coming down with something. But, I put it to the back of my mind and focussed on us having a lovely photoshoot.

It went like a dream, Alice had a good feed before we left, a nap on the way over, then a quick top up feed and we were ready to go.

Alice was really good throughout the shoot and we got some lovely photos of her and the three of us.

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We left the photoshoot feeling pleased with how it had gone, but on the drive home I started to feel really poorly and by the time we got home all I wanted to do was go to bed.

Luckily it was a Sunday and I could relax a little bit with Andy home, but I still needed to feed Alice and couldn’t just hide under the duvet.

The night feeds were the worst, Alice had got herself into a pattern of having a dream feed at 10.30pm and then a feed at 5am. But, of course she choose this night to wake up a lot more, she too was feeling poorly. Or, at least that is what I thought was the problem, it’s never easy to work out if a baby is poorly, teething, grumpy…

By the time morning came round I was exhausted, not only from being up in the night, but also because I felt really poorly. Andy felt really bad leaving for work and that was when it hit me, that I couldn’t phone in sick, I had to be mummy still. That was a long tough day, because Alice wasn’t feeling well either, she wasn’t napping to well and generally didn’t know what to do with herself. Trying to find the energy to take care of a newborn baby when I was felt really poorly, was not easy.

There was some light at the end of a dark tunnel, it was our wedding anniversary the next day and Andy had booked the day off. We had planned to take Alice to Bath for the day, a place that had a special place in our family. The day after we got married, we went to Bath for a ‘mini moon’. As our honeymoon wasn’t until seven weeks after our wedding, we wanted to have a couple of days away together.

We thought it would be lovely to spend the day their together as a new family of three, sadly that would have to wait, we were just to poorly to want a day out. But, at least Andy was home to help out and I have never been more grateful to have him home. He could take care of Alice, apart of the feeds, and I could try and get myself better. I had 24 hours until I was back on my own again and I was praying I could kick this illness.

Since that first time of being poorly as a mummy, I have experienced it far too many times and it never gets any easier. Sometimes if it was just me poorly and not Alice, my mum would help out and take Alice for me, so I could get some sleep. But, most of the time we have been poorly together, I tend to catch it from her and then we are in it together.

Then Holly came along and the fun just got better when all three of us have been poorly at the same time. Thankfully Alice doesn’t get sick that often, but Holly seems to catch everything that is going around. So, it will be Holly and I that are poorly and Alice is full of beans…those are fun days with a preschooler bouncing off the walls, Holly wanting mummy cuddles and me wanting my bed to sleep!

Being a mummy is one of the hardest, most rewarding things I have done, I really wouldn’t change it for the world. But wouldn’t it be great if we could pull that duvet over our head and go back to sleep when we are sick…

Next week on my Looking Back Series is Alice’s first Christmas.



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  1. 31/03/2016 / 11:42

    Never an easy task. Grit my teeth and get on with it is my way. You have to! Great blog, love your theme 🙂

  2. Dean of Little Steps
    31/03/2016 / 13:46

    Oh my goodness that photo is absolutely lovely! I do love children’s clothes too, especially for little girls, aren’t they just the cutest? When my daughter was your baby’s age, I used to take ages too planning her outfits, but not for myself. I miss those days.

    • 31/03/2016 / 18:03

      AH thank you, I love it too! They are the cutest and having two daughters is not good for my bank balance! x

  3. 31/03/2016 / 17:02

    What a lovely post. It’s so important to look back and really think about how far we’ve come. A bit of reminiscing is good for the soul 🙂 H x

    • 31/03/2016 / 18:02

      Thank you. I am really enjoying going back to the beginning and reliving these moments x

  4. 31/03/2016 / 18:42

    I was poorly a couple of weeks ago and I remember thinking at the time, ‘this is going to be so much harder once the baby’s here!’ (I’m 30 weeks pregnant) but I suppose you just have to grit your teeth and get through it. As you said, there definitely aren’t any days off from being a mum!

  5. 31/03/2016 / 18:47

    Lovely post, glad the photo shoot went well for you before ye all got too sick. the first time I got sick after my little mans arrival I moved into the spare room for a few days and just remember DH bringing baby into me for feeds, the rest was all a blur.

  6. 31/03/2016 / 23:43

    Yes, it is never fun when that happens. Last week in fact I had my first illness where I couldn’t actually do it & partner did have to stay home for a day. I had a severe sickness bug & was throwing up every 5-10 minutes. The littlest one had the same. 2 yr old was okay but she still obviously needed to be cared for & made food, etc. With the amount of time I was spending being sick, and the amount of help the little one needed for the same thing, he did have to stay & help out. But we avoid that whenever possible, as lose too much pay, and it’s never fun trying to look after the little ones while ill.

    • 02/04/2016 / 08:33

      Sorry you have all been ill, it’s one of the hardest times as a parent. Hope you are on the mend x

  7. 04/04/2016 / 07:49

    It’s so hard being sick and still having to look after the children. Lovely photo though 🙂 #marvmondays x

  8. Fran Back With A Bump
    04/04/2016 / 09:32

    There’s nothing worse than being ill when you’re a mum. I remember having a really bad sickness big when my eldest was only little at the time and after a morning in bed her dad said “how long are you going to drag this out for?” This from the man who went awol most weekends. Suffice to say we divorced!! #marvmondays

  9. 04/04/2016 / 17:11

    I am so with you on this one. I so wish we could! Just speeds up the recovery process, I think.

  10. 04/04/2016 / 17:54

    Poorly babies are just the worst!! A has been a very sicky baby (and toddler actually) and we’ve actually had some of the hardest last few days as he’s been ill. You’re right, it never gets easier. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

  11. 04/04/2016 / 19:31

    It is sooo hard being sick with little ones. One of the joys of being back at work is on nursery days I can call in sick at work and rest at home. Hubby is fab at weekends. So much harder if you are at home all the time. Bless.Gorgeous photos though xx #marvmondays

  12. 05/04/2016 / 20:50

    Gosh yes. I feel like the first six months of NC’s life were spent either with him in hospital or both of us with colds. It was tough. But we’re through the winter now and you’re right; it’s good to look back as you appreciate so much how wonderful it is when you’re all healthy! #marvmondays