We Are All Just Parents Doing Our Best…Let’s Not Judge!

We Are All Just Parents Doing Our Best…Let’s Not Judge!

I don’t normally do ranty posts, as I am not usually a ranty type of person. Yes, I get annoyed by things, but I don’t have time for it in my life and I move on quite quickly.

But, this really got to me.

I’m just fed up with reading comments where people are judging other people’s parenting. They might not think they are, but when you see comments like ‘I’m not that sort of mum’. Then they indirectly are!

I’m not even too sure exactly what they mean by that comment. But reading it as a mum for me it means that if you are doing the opposite to what they are doing, then I guess you are ‘that mum’. Does that make ‘that mum’ wrong, I doubt it.

Why do people feel the need to do this? And why do they feel the need to put it out there for the world to see.

It makes parents question themselves when they don’t need to. It put’s that little niggle in their mind, that otherwise wouldn’t have been there.

I’ve yet to meet a parent that isn’t just doing the best for their child. They are the person that knows their child best after all. There maybe so many other factors why someone is doing the opposite to you. But that one comment ‘I’m not that mum’, will stick in their mind!

And whose to say that the way you’ve chosen to do things would work for someone else. There is often no right or wrong in parenting, there are choices and we all make the ones that are right for us and our children.

I’m fed up of parents slinging these comments about like they are right. We are all on this parenting journey with no manual and even for a second time mum like me, my girls are so different that it often feels like I’m doing things for the first time.

Let’s all just stick to our side of the fence and not make throw away comments that are having negative affects on other parents.

I don’t want anyone to feel like ‘that mum’…



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  1. 23/04/2017 / 20:46

    Well said lovely!! xxx

  2. 23/04/2017 / 21:57

    Great post lovely and I agree!! Lets all just be mindful that we are all trying our best!!!

  3. 24/04/2017 / 07:37

    I couldn’t agree with this more! I think every mum makes the best choice she can at that moment in time – she knows her child best and what is likely to work or not work for them. And that can change day to day too. The less we worry about what other people are doing and the more supportive we can be the better.

  4. 24/04/2017 / 10:09

    I love this Laura – totally agree!! I may not make the same choices as other Mums, I may even disagree with the choices they make, but as a Mum who knows just how difficult it is to raise a child, I respect their judgement and I concentrate on my own choices, my own child and my own life. I will never understand why other parents feel the need to judge, surely we should be holding eachother up instead of knocking eachother down? xxx

  5. 14/07/2017 / 19:51

    I find the whole judgemental issue with parents really sad 🙁
    Especially when you see that their children have picked up on it & think its ok. When the kids start doing it, thats when I find it really upsetting.

    Some parents appear to get off on judging others,