The morning of my due date has arrived, I am fed up and say to my hubby (or maybe demand!), that we are not sitting around waiting for our baby girl to arrive. He tells me its Saturday on August bank holiday everywhere will be busy, I give him ‘the look’ and before you know it, we are in the car heading to a local attraction park.
We had a lovely day, Alice had lots of fun, completely unaware that she could be a big sister at any moment. It’s a day I’m pleased we were able to have before our three became a four.
We arrive back home tired and still pregnant.
Andy casually mentions that his friends are going to the pub and is shocked when I tell him to go, not the response he was expecting. He is out the door and in the car, before I change my mind, thinking this will be his last chance for a while…I’m shouting keep your phone handy!
Alice is asleep and I’m on the phone to my mum, when I start to feel a bit strange. I end the call and within twenty minutes I’m pretty sure I am in labour. By 10.30pm, I have been in labour for a couple of hours and I think Andy has had a good few hours down the pub, time to get him home.
I always wanted to make ‘that call’ to tell Andy I was in labour, I never got the chance to do it with Alice. Well, it was just like you imagine it to be, ‘oh right, it’s really happening, I am on my way’…he was home within 10 minutes!
Things moved a lot quicker than my labour with Alice, after a few calls to the hospital and deciding Andy had slept enough, I woke him up at 5.30am. I packed an overnight bag for Alice and phoned my mum to let her know I was in labour, she came straight over to pick up Alice. Knowing Alice was happy at nan and grandad’s, the real fun could begin!
I managed a couple more hours at home, I had a nice bath and got myself ready.
After being in regular contact with the hospital since I went into labour, the time came where I needed to get to hospital. I made the call and heard the words that still haunt me ‘we are full’. My first thought was, my daughter has to be born there, it’s where Alice was born and it’s in my plan.
Then the panic set in…someone please help me, I have a baby making it’s way out of me!
All the other hospitals and birthing centres within a 30 minute drive were full, this is not getting any better! Then finally the hospital phoned to say they have found a space at a hospital which is 50 minutes away. They spoke to Andy, as I could no longer speak, the contractions were coming so fast. They told him that if I felt the urge to push, to pull over and call an ambulance.
We get in the car and I find the sat nav, yes the sat nav, we have no idea where the hospital is. I think we make it about 10 minutes down the dual carriageway and I tell Andy the words that still give him nightmares,I think I need to push!
He pulls into a lay-by and calls an ambulance, while we wait for what feels like forever, the operator tells Andy to get me into the back of the car. I struggle into the back and they ask if he can see a head! Lying in the back of the car, I scream ‘there is no head, it’s not something you can miss’.
The ambulance arrives and I can see Andy chatting to the men. I shout from the back of the car ‘What are they saying Andy?’ He replies, ‘They want to get you into the ambulance, but I told them you can’t move’.
I shout back that I will get to that ambulance, it’s bad enough that I am in a lay-by and not a hospital! I am at least having my baby in that ambulance, not the back of our car (think of the mess!).
The lovely ambulance men tell me they are going to try and get me to the hospital to have the baby. I could tell this guy did not want me to give birth on his watch (I don’t blame him!). We head off and in between taking the gas and air, I hear them phoning the hospital for directions, yes, that’s right the ambulance driver has no idea where the hospital is, as it’s in a different county…this is getting better!
We make it to the hospital and a midwife, yes, finally a midwife, jumps on board and takes a quick look. She tells me, that they will get me upstairs and not to push yet. The urge to push now was overwhelming! There is no sign of Andy, the ambulance driver said he was following behind us.
Luckily he then appears in the back of the ambulance, thank god!
I am in the delivery suite and I am really needing to push now and they ask for my hospital notes, we look at Andy who tells us they are in the car. You had one job!!! He goes to get them and they tell me to hang on, don’t push, we don’t want him to miss the birth.
Finally he returns and I can push. We welcomed my beautiful little girl twenty minutes later…
We named you Holly…
That rush of love hit me, just like it did with Alice and I was now a mummy to two gorgeous girls. It did feel different this time, I wasn’t nervous, I knew how to hold her, I knew how to be a mummy.
She latched on to feed straight away, which was not the case with Alice and we enjoyed getting to know our little girl.
The ambulance men came by and asked if they could meet our little Holly, which was really lovely of them. They did a great job of getting me to the hospital and keeping me calm.
A few hours later, my parents arrived with Alice and she met her little sister for the first time. Alice fell in love with her sister the minute she saw her, it was such a special moment. She was caring, gentle and wanted to take her home…we couldn’t have been more proud of her.
Later that day we took our little girl home and started our life as a family of four…knowing our family is complete.
If you love a birth story, you can read Alice’s here.